Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful ~Herman Cain
You must be thinking: What makes people happy in life?
Some people tag them as a lucky person with lots of opportunities. Some people concentrate only on their end results. Some people are busy in discussing their journey only.
The basic question arises: How are they finding happiness in this complex world?
The answer is both easy and tough. It is easy for those who think that all are humans and no one is blessed with extraordinary powers. We all have everything within us. Nothing is created or destroyed. Everything is discovered.
It is tough for those who think that they can’t do it. To them, everything is over. There is no ray of hope to re-kindle the fighting spirit within.
What makes them apart from the frustrating crowd? They have the power to accept the reality. They know one basic truth: Journey is not made up straight paths.
They don’t depend upon the external sources for self-satisfaction. Instead of going away, they face the situation with full confidence.
Happy People don’t shy away from these harsh realities of life.
They understand the true meaning of Detachment
Don’t think about the word ‘Detachment’ in a negative framework. You don’t have to leave the material world to lead an ascetic life in the jungles.
You just have to live in the present moment by disconnecting your past’s guilt and future’s anticipation. Stay away from the fluctuations of the temporary phases. Happy people disconnect themselves from highs and lows in a career.
They know everything has a beginning and an end. They don’t become emotional fools by staying away from the extreme behaviors (feeling super excited on accomplishing the task or feeling too low on losing something).
They understand the prize of persistence
It doesn’t matter how hard you get hit. What matters mores is how long you sustain the hard hit. The longer you absorb the harsh circumstances, greater the chance of gaining favorable output.
Happy people accomplish their targets with a persistent approach. They move ahead by adding and removing three ingredients. They add perspiration, faith, and Inspiration. They remove anxiety, stress, and hopelessness.
The real strength of an individual is determined by continuing a course of action in spite of the opposition. The prize of persistence opens up all the blocked doors with bright possibilities.
They believe in 'Small is Big' Principle
Many people follow the ‘dream big’ theory. There is no harm in following this teaching. But, we need to adopt this saying by adding some stability. Dream big with small and focused steps.
Happy people have patience and dedication as their precious tools. Firstly, they invest in their joyful life by harvesting their small seeds of passion. Then, they spread their fragrance to far places for turning out dreams into reality.
Never underestimate the power of small things. A sword cannot do the work of a needle. Start making small targets. Enjoy the output of those targets. All these small wins add up big smile on your face
They realize the harshness of the first step
In order to understand this point, let us take the example of happiest individuals on the planet: Children. Going to kindergarten is a hard experience for both kids and parents. After some time, the kids adjust with the school set up. The alien environment becomes familiar.
They forget the past difficulties and indulge in various joyful activities. In a similar manner, you must face the toughness of the beginning phase. Don't overthink. Otherwise, you won't be able to concentrate on your present moment.
Happy people have faith in themselves. They have the courage to learn and smile from the initial hurdle. They embrace the first step close to their heart. Do you know the reason? It is the first step only, which makes a clear the roadmap of the further steps
They unzip the 'problem-solution' confusion
Where do you go for finding a solution for your problems? If you are dependent on the external support only, you are missing the magic of the inner kingdom. Dig deeper and you will get the answer.
If you are creating a problem for yourself, you only have the key to
You might say: The other person is creating a problem in my life
Before raising this doubt in your mind, ask yourself one question: Why am I getting disturbed by the other person? You will get the solution. You are allowing others to create problems in your life.
Happy people look out for the answers from themselves only. As you can’t solve the answers with a puzzled mind, always step out of the problem to get a solution. It will help you to analyze the problem in a detailed manner.
They know about their area of control
Happy people focus on their area of expertise. They don’t pay any attention to the external circumstances. They leave away the outside junk and concentrate on their inner bliss point.
Concentrate on your strong points. It doesn't matter whether your ideas looks bigger or smaller to other's eyes. What matter most is your self-belief. If not today, you will achieve big in your life.
Do you know the best part:
By thinking about your vision, you are ahead of those people who don't even have an aim in their life. At least, you have taken the first step to free yourself from the suffocating chains of dull routine.
The better you adapt to this reality, more successful you will become in your life. Some things in life are not in our control. You can’t put a seal on critical opinions. You can’t change the nature of the toxic people around you.
They recognize the concept of 'Less is More'
Instead of stuffing, happy people believe in chewing. In this way, they digest all the unwanted negativeness in life. They know the importance of minimalist approach. They are not running after everything.
Don't forget: You are human only. Never distract yourself by going in random directions.
There is no need to complicate things by adding more steps. Happiness is achieved by three basic steps:
- Absorb the basics to understand your work
- Analyze all the inputs for chewing the fundamentals properly.
- Reflect all your knowledge to gain success in your field
In this information era, we are loaded with an infinite amount of resources. Some people are not able to bear the burden of different distractions. Some are not able to concentrate on the essential things. It is better to suck all the benefits from minimal things only.
They stay away from the Blame Game
When we are not getting the perfect solution to come out of the mess, we find it comfortable in playing the transfer game. In this game, we suppress our mistakes by passing them on other’s shoulders.
Open up and be brave to face the consequences of your acts. By exposing your reality, you will feel guilty one time only. By suppressing, you will feel guilty for your whole life.
By creating a mountain of suppressed errors, we never learn to heal our problems. Happy people never hide their shortcomings. They have the strength to accept their weak points.
They don't connect Wealth with Happiness
Happiness is not calculated by the bank balance. Sometimes, a simple farmer is happy by fulfilling the basic needs of the family members. Sometimes, a rich businessman is unhappy due to mounting pressure.
Money may make you feel happy. But, it never comes with a permanent stamp of happiness. Don't indulge in money-making only. Devote some quality time with your family members. Bring down stress moments by cracking jokes with your loved ones.
We can’t judge the inner bank balance by the outer appearance only. There is no harm in earning money. But, don’t connect your happiness with monetary outcomes only. Always give first and last preference to your dreams only. The money will flow in automatically.
They have respect for dull moments
We recognize the value of water when we are thirsty. We value our parent’s wealth when we start earning money. In a similar manner, we value happiness when experience dull moments in life.
Don't run away from your colorless phase. They prepare you for something bigger in life. They blindfold your vision for sharpening the skills. They dim the present moment to light up your future.
Happy people have more respect for sad moments. Doesn’t it sound odd? But, this is the reality. In these troubling episodes, we learn valuable lessons of life. We are exposed to the complex environment to recognize the warmth of the simplicity.
Over to you, buddies
What makes you happy? How do you enjoy all the happy moments in your life? Do you find it difficult to smile in your stressful moments?
Share your thoughts or personal experiences based on this article. Put a smile on someBUDDY’S face.